Commitments We Make
A man who loves his wife and has been married for five years is one day approached by a stunning woman, who wants a no strings attached one night stand…should he accept the offer?
A business owner who has a vision of a thriving, expanding business, simply can’t resist the temptation to go out with friends on a Friday night, rather than putting in those necessary extra hours…for the sake of fun, should he give in?
A martial arts student who dreams of becoming stronger and one day earning a black belt feels tired after school and would rather go home and lie on the couch, rather than attend his lesson…should he skip class?
The answer to each of these is a resounding no, no and NO.
Success in anything in life, be it love, fitness, martial arts, business, etc., requires commitment….not sometimes, ALWAYS.
The dictionary definition of commitment is: “the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a course of action”.
If you’re committed to something, this definition holds, regardless of whether you feel like it or not.
The majority of people go through life with unfinished goals and dreams, simply because of a lack of long term dedication and commitment. We are a society seeking instant gratification and pleasure, and we don’t tend to handle stress or hardship well. Instead, we try to avoid it. As a result, when our commitments challenge us, require that we do something we don’t feel like doing, or demand too much effort; we often opt for the path of least resistance, and choose what we want NOW. Consequentially, it is common to see failed marriages, failed business endeavors, and incomplete ventures into learning new skills.
To actually grow as a human being, expand skills, knowledge and ability, and achieve success in life, we much be accountable to ourselves and others. We must be willing to follow through with what we begin if we want to thrive…this includes times when we’re tired, don’t feel like it, or are tempted to give in to a more instantaneous reward.
The outcome of the above scenarios is predictable: for one night of fun, that man will likely lose an invaluable relationship. Lack of drive and work ethic will probably cause the business owner a huge set back in his business, and if it’s a behavioural trend, will ultimately lead to its demise. Laziness will ensure that the dream of the martial arts student remains only a dream.
In our changing world, learning to be more dedicated and solid individuals is essential. In all aspects, we must abandon our belief that we should only do what feels good now, and learn to see the bigger picture, and give our 100% in all of life’s situations…pleasant, unpleasant, easy, hard.
In the realm of ideas everything depends on enthusiasm… in the real world all rests on perseverance.
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe